A Cup of Tea on the Commode: My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale

母親的守護者: 兒子最後的陪伴

類別 : 傳記回憶錄
ISBN:978-1608082841
頁數 : 320
出版 : Boutique of Quality Books, 2023 年 5 月 14 日
版本 : 平裝版
版權窗口 : 繁體博達代理David / 简体版權已售David

內容介紹

作版代的其中一項樂趣就是當作者主動聯繫希望代理版權,前幾天David收到A Cup of Tea on the Commode這本書作者馬克·史蒂文·波羅 (Mark Steven Porro)的email,看了amazon的介紹之後馬上決定代理。這本回憶錄是作者馬克講述他照顧母親最後幾年的故事。

 

David自己的媽媽目前住在護理之家,對於老年看護這個議題非常有感覺。其實要掏心掏肺講這樣的故事不是一件很容易的事,但作者融合了家族歷史、兄弟姐妹之間的故事、童年回憶,讓讀者很容易勾勒作者和作者母親的形象,另外也很容易共情想起自己生活中年邁的父母。

 

書中有一段提到馬克曾和朋友偷腳踏車,但媽媽質問他的時候,馬克撒了謊。後來馬克充滿罪惡感和媽媽從實招來。母親告訴馬克「比起偷腳踏車,你對我撒謊更傷我的心」,從那天起馬克再也不說謊。David小時候也曾偷拿家裡的零錢去打電動玩具,當時也是被母親斥責了好久,母親告訴我打電動對我眼睛不好,所以她才會一直阻止我和鄰居小孩去玩,但比起打電動我偷她的零錢更傷她的心。我對馬克描述的這一段情節很有共鳴。

 

另外馬克的母親對於拼字非常敏銳,還曾當過Doubleday出版社與紐澤西最大報社The Record的文字校對,在母親的告別式,馬克的哥哥麥克講了關於母親擅於拼字的笑話來緬懷她。這個笑話是這樣的。

 

17年前爸爸過世上了天堂,天堂的守門員聖彼得要爸爸拼出「愛」這個字才願意讓他上天堂,爸爸很輕鬆的拼出了L-O-V-E。多年之後聖彼得退休了,換老爸當天堂的守門員。
有一天爸爸聽見了媽媽的聲音,兩人相識。爸爸告訴媽媽她得拼出捷克斯洛伐克這個字才能進天堂,母親瞇起眼睛自信的回答C-Z-E-C-H-O-S-LO-V-A-K-I-A,Czechoslovakia。
爸爸對著母親笑了一笑,告訴她「妳果然寶刀未老!」

 

看到這一段David想起媽媽超級無敵的記憶力,她腦中不曉得記了多少人的手機號碼和市內電話。每次從老人之家接她回爸爸住處時,她都會急急忙忙的打電話給她的閨蜜,我曾問她為什麼都記的起來,媽媽總是露出無敵可愛的笑容。

 

每一代的父母都以不同的方式在度過晚年,馬克選擇了一條很辛苦親自照顧媽媽的路,但他以幽默愛心來面對,然後他以文字來分享母親的故事以及他陪伴母親最後幾年的生活。歡迎和David/Karen索取書稿,我相信大家也會在書裡看到很多為人子女的種種無奈、無助和喜樂。

 

★可以類比的書像是《最後十四堂星期二的課》(Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom)、《凝視死亡:一位外科醫師對衰老與死亡的思索》(Being Mortal by Atul Gawande)以及《漫長的告別:回憶錄》(The Long Goodbye: A Memoir by Meghan O'Rourke)

 

馬克(Mark)享受著他在洛杉磯無憂無慮的單身生活。他沒有穩定的女朋友,沒有孩子,工作之外的責任也很少。但一切在「那通電話」來臨時改變了。89 歲的母親吉妮薇(Genevieve)發生意外,從老人之家被送回老家等死,安寧醫療人員都已準備就緒。馬克急忙回到紐澤西州陪伴母親。沒想到幾個小時變成了幾天,幾天又變成了幾週,直到母親醒來展現她的求生意志。馬克決定搬回童年老家照顧媽媽。他的第一個任務是移除所有潛在的危險,其中包括先前聘請的看護。

 

馬克問母親:「你相信我嗎?」
她輕聲回應:「相信。」
他繼續問:「你明白我會盡我所能讓你保持健康和安全嗎?」她微笑著點頭。
「這意味著我來掌控,現在你必須聽我的話。」
媽媽的情緒瞬間改變,她直視著他的眼睛,然後撅嘴。
馬克不確定這是投降的象徵還是媽媽不覺得馬克會成功。
馬克親了母親的臉頰希望陪媽媽走完最後一段人生的路程。

 

父母與孩子角色互換的情況對中年人來說是共同的經驗,但馬克應對的方式卻是如此不同。有一天為了讓媽媽在便盆上如廁的時光更愉快一些,他給她端來一杯她最喜歡的熱茶。這一舉動讓媽媽很開心,從此,媽媽每天早上上廁所的時間馬克都會幫媽媽準備一杯熱茶,這也是英文書名A Cup of Tea on the Commode的由來。

 

這本親密、幽默且感人的回憶錄講述了孩子如何做好照護長者的故事。

 

《母親的守護者: 兒子最後的陪伴》記錄了馬克如何在母親的最後歲月中,通過愛、笑聲和喜悅,照顧媽媽的故事。儘管並非每次都讓媽媽開心,馬克已經竭盡所能討母親歡心。

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作者介紹

馬克·史蒂文·波羅(Mark Steven Porro)是紐澤西人,擁有俄亥俄州立大學的工業設計學位。在多年的廣告代理工作後,他對表演的熱愛將他帶到好萊塢,在那裡他參演了數十部電視、電影和舞台劇作品。同時,馬克在好萊塢的28年中,還展開了創業冒險。他創立了五家非營利公司,但別急著鼓掌,因為馬克原本是想賺錢的。如今馬克住在法國南部,但也別急著感到同情。他心智健全、身體健康,選擇在葡萄酒之鄉“受苦”,當地人還總是說他的法語不錯——至少他自己是這麼認為的。

馬克是一位屢獲殊榮的設計師、作家、導演,如今更是暢銷書作家和獲獎作家。他寫過許多笑話、幾個劇本,以及一部獲獎短片。《A Cup of Tea on the Commode》(《坐浴器上的一杯茶》)是他第一本帶有悲傷、甜美又幽默色彩的回憶錄,記錄了他如何在母親生命的最後幾年中,陪伴在她身旁為她帶來愛、歡笑和快樂。儘管並非每次都成功,但他相當接近了,而且他倖存下來,得以講述這段故事。
 

書評

Chronicling a son's devotion to his mother in her final years, Mark Steven Porro's A CUP OF TEA ON THE COMMODE is a heartwarming, humorous, and poignant memoir that offers a touching and relatable account of caregiving that will resonate with readers on a deep emotional level.
— James Weiskittel for IndieReader IR Approved 5-Star Review

 

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode. My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale" by *Mark Steven Porro* requires laughter, tears, and heartbreak to read. It also will ring a tolling bell for many caregivers out there, especially sons, husbands, and brothers. This could only have been written by a Jersey boy and it echoes my journey of returning to New Jersey to care for my Mom and Dad. Here's yet another amazing caregiver being honest and raw inspiring us to keep keeping on.
— Susanne White, Caregiver Warrior, author of "Self-Care for Caregivers"

 

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode" by Mark Steven Porro is a funny, loving, and lovely tribute to the passing of a beloved mother and the time the author, her son, was given to spend with her as her caregiver. Mark writes in a comfortable and conversational style that allows a reader to feel like they are chatting with a friend over coffee. The result is a connection to the work and the people in it that is hard to come by in memoirs written by or about people most readers do not know or know of. It is a beautifully told story that will likely prove comforting to others on similar journeys. Very highly recommended."
— Reader's Favorite Five-Star Review

 

This is a beautiful book from the heart of a beautiful man! Do yourself a favor—it is an inspiring read. — Jocelyn Jones, author of Artist: Awakening the Spirit Within

 

This book was like sitting down at the kitchen table and sharing troubles with and old friend. Having parents is common, taking care of them with all the intimate details involved is not. Mark Steven Porro shared all the victories and defeats, sorrows, and disappointments along with making you giggle at some of the sillier exchanges between he and his mother. This book helps us to appreciate the tremendous effort that goes into caregiving and why we should all look to help lighten caregiver's emotional and physical load when we can. Thank you NetGalley for providing this opportunity for me to read this book. It's a keeper."
— Laurie Mosey, Librarian, a NetGalley Review

 

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode is a beautiful tribute to Genevieve Porro. As a reader, I felt like I got to know her as a person—she is funny, endearing, sensitive, and I laughed many times throughout. I love the narrator's tone of voice is unique, humorous, definitive, and conversational. It speaks to the readers. Mark doesn't shy away from expressing all emotions he felt as he took care of his mother, and it is very endearing. There are many touching stories in the manuscript, and many that will resonate with readers on an emotional level."
— Allison Itterly, Acquisitions Editor

 

"This is a humorous account about Mark Steven Porro and his family's story. It all makes for a mostly humorous but at times a sad tale and how in a time where people are only looking for what makes them happy, this man gave up everything to move back across the country to tend to his dying mother. It really is touching, heartwarming, and so worth reading. I am so glad I read it. I almost didn't due to the title but was curious enough to read the summary and OMG, I'm glad I did."
— Janalyn Prude, a NetGalley Review

 

"This book, A Cup of Tea on The Commode, had me clutching it until done!"
— Nancy May, host of Doing It Best with Eldercare Success podcast

 

"Really detailed story about Porro. I appreciated how he crafted this memoir. I enjoyed his story-telling and felt like I was part of his family at times. Five stars! Well-written!"
— Kelly Pramberger, Goodreads

 

"I found A Cup of Tea on the Commode very moving. I like the writing style - the humour highlights Genevieve's stoic sense of fun. It is an inspirational story that bravely tells it like it is. I must confess, it brought me to tears, but then it also made me laugh. Good combination."
— Dr. Sharon Ager Wray, PhD in Sociology

 

"In his own words, 'Dedication is not my problem....' Mark proves that beyond a doubt in this lovingly emotional dedication to (not only) his mother but his whole family and his life. Having a frighteningly similar experience with my own mother (albeit not as "hands on" as Mark) I couldn't imagine the tale told better than here in this book."
— Larry Thomas, The Soup Nazi from Seinfeld

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