Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations
《當我們必須談論死亡與別離時》(簡體中文版書名)
內容介紹
如果你的好友正在經歷痛苦,你應該怎麼去勸慰他?如果你的親人身患重病,你要如何用溫柔的方式坦白那些殘酷的真相?你又該如何堅強地面對臨終之榻的談話?
當你準備談論以上這些關於死亡、分離、創傷的話題時,是不是常常感到很艱難?這是一本關於如何用溫柔的方式進行艱難對話的溝通寶典。“對話”在本書中是一個非常重要的詞。它並非關於“告訴”,通過強加個人觀點去解決問題,而是關於雙方之間的雙向對話——一種口頭舞蹈。溝通就像跳舞,一方引導,但從不強迫對方;而另一方追隨,卻從不會感受到壓力。
國際知名心理治療師、姑息治療師凱薩琳·曼尼克斯結合一系列引人反思、觸動人心的真實故事,以及與她在醫學和心理學前沿畢生的工作經驗,教會讀者如何開啟並進行一場艱難的對話,如何理解談話中的溫和,用他人更易接受的方式表達自我,如何用陪伴緩解他人的痛苦。
本書並不會提供一套現成的腳本讓讀者照本宣科,它提供的不僅是原理和規則,而是具體的解決辦法。通過令人深思的故事,跟隨作者一起去探討、發現、感悟一些值得被記住的實用溝通技巧和原則,學會用溫柔的方式完成那些艱難的對話。
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‘This gentle-hearted, engaging and intimately readable book is so full of wisdom and compassion. Everyone should read it’
Nigella Lawson
‘Kathryn Mannix has a gift for cutting through the noise and helping us realise what is most important. In a world that never stops talking, this book celebrates and demonstrates the curative power of listening. It is powerful, humane and wise’
Julia Samuel
‘This is a beautiful book … Too often people want their friends and relations to take all the difficult talk to a therapist, there has to be more than the professional listeners who know how to have a mutually impactful beautiful, tender conversation. This is a book for everyone … I actually feel listened to by reading it’
Philippa Perry
‘Kathryn Mannix is our modern-day prophet … This is an essential book for anyone interested in themselves and their fellow humans’
Greg Wise
‘I adore Kathryn's writing. Always sensitive, always thoughtful, an essential read for those looking to connect’
Cariad Lloyd
‘Kathryn Mannix is a natural born storyteller, and there is so much wisdom, tenderness and love packed into this profoundly beautiful book … Her words brim with grace. I loved this book so very much.’
Rachel Clarke
‘It’s amazing that a book like this has not been written before – such is the need for it … Intensely humane and reassuring … Full of wisdom and compassion’
Sue Stuart-Smith
‘This is a beautiful book and I found almost every page taught me something in a gentle, but powerful way’
Annalisa Barbieri
‘The book’s greatest strength is not just the information it shares, but the pure humanity it shows; the halting, fearful, imperfect conversations between people who are all doing their best and sometimes not getting it right. The gems of wisdom apply to all situations, whether someone is at the end of their life or has had a bad day at work … Compassionate, warm and wise’
The Times